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Handeling a Trouble Parent1. Don't discuss the issue at the gameThe first thing the coach should avoid is discussing the problem with the parent on the field, especially if he/she is visibly upset. 2. Schedule a separate time/venue to have the discussionRather than discuss the problem then and there, the coach should agree to meet or telephone the parent at a mutually convenient time to discuss the complaint. By doing this, you avoid giving the parent an audience, allow the him/her to 'cool off', and give yourself time to prepare an appropriate response to the complaint. 3. Be an active listenerWhen you eventually talk to the parent, one of the most important things you can do is be an active listener. Doing things like taking notes, maintaining eye contact and nodding to acknowledge you have heard what the parent is saying are crucial. 4. Don't interruptEven if parents raise their voices or their stories have are not fact-based, the coach should avoid interrupting. By interrupting a parent, you risk inflaming the situation. 5. Don't get defensiveThe coach should avoid defending or justifying their action. Such behavior at this point will only make the situation worse. 6. Show empathyRespond to their concerns with statements like "I'm sorry that you feel your
child has been treated unfairly". This will help the parent to understand 7. Clarify the problemThis can be achieved by asking probing questions. This helps both parties to focus on the problem (not personalities), stick to the facts, and avoid being caught up in extraneous issues. 8. Offer a range of solutionsA lot of times, parents just want their feelings to be heard and understood. If
they want more, try to offer a range of solutions. This demonstrates a 9. Get closureIdeally, you will given the parent a number of options and agreed on a mutual
course of action. At this point it's appropriate to end the meeting. It should
conclude with three things: This will leave the parent feeling as though their complaint has been heard, and 10. Leave the door openThere will be cases, however after this whole process where you will not be able to give the parent the response they are looking for. It is important in these circumstances that the coach leave the door open for the parent, e.g.. 'If there is ever anything else, please come to me'. By doing this the parent will at least feel that his/her complaint has been taken seriously, and the coach-parent relationship, however strained, will remain intact. Not doing this could allow the problem to fester... and the parent could damage your reputation through word-of-mouth. |
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